When I first saw this article, I got annoyed. The women-are-so-disappointed-with-men narrative is clogging up my social media algorithm. As a dating coach, I thought this was just more of the same.

But then I read it. The title is misleading. Having a boyfriend is not embarrassing, it's uninteresting. And this article asks all of us/you coupled people out there to stop flexing. We don't care about your "for no reason" flowers.

As a single person, seeing other people's engagement videos, you know, the ones with the montages of candles, down on one knee and of course, the RING made me feel like the jealous person I'm not.

Why them and not me? What was wrong with me? Why isn't anybody buying me flowers for no reason?

It's a different kind of envy. A Kardashian post of Stormi sliding down her $350M yacht hits different than a friend of a friend's elaborate engagement. Why? Because $350M is out of reach. Having a fiancé is not. Or at least it shouldn't be.

My takeaway was this: having a boyfriend is great. Love is great. But stop shoving it in our faces and keep it to yourself. Great relationships don't need to be showcased or used as clout.

I know this first hand.

As a single parent, compromise has never been part of my vocabulary. And now, soon approaching four years into my relationship, it's a work in progress. This relationship has challenged me in so many ways - how to compromise, how to communicate and even, how to argue. It's rewarding for sure but definitely not the video montage I'd been expecting.